tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4692468684154097522.post5525579714356941801..comments2020-07-21T21:05:40.860-07:00Comments on Hoarder's Child: So yes, I'd say her nerves were badElizabeth Suttonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13711012142902318176noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4692468684154097522.post-7348595266365010852012-02-15T14:46:18.836-08:002012-02-15T14:46:18.836-08:00The topic rarely comes up, but if I find myself ta...The topic rarely comes up, but if I find myself talking about childhood stuff, or people mention housekeeping it can pop up. About half the time I say anything, someone else admits they know someone who is a hoarder.<br /><br />Its a lot more common than most people would guess, I'm thinking.Lucretia Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06038287234542460969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4692468684154097522.post-39836231735741350442011-09-13T10:35:07.540-07:002011-09-13T10:35:07.540-07:00I like your phrase "we limit ourselves" ...I like your phrase "we limit ourselves" in relation to hiding the hoard. Yes, it's tragic to think we live in a world full of unknown shared secrets, but I do believe the openness has gotten better.<br /><br />My father is a rural Italian farmer and culturally puts in high regard public reputation and perception. Dad thinks being mentally ill is weak, and I know it scares him to be that powerless. <br /><br />His fear of humiliation disables the ability to admit his hoarding problem, even to me. In turn, I'm afraid to begin the conversation. <br /><br />I fear his feelings. He fears his faults. And, like Sydney said, we're "off to happier topics."<br /><br />This is the cycle you mentioned, and it breeds into new generations if it goes unresolved.<br /><br />Posts like yours ignite inspiration in all of us who see hoarding in our lives, whether through family members or ourselves. These discussions will shed the necessary light on hoarding that is paramount to ending the cycle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4692468684154097522.post-43638618971183841742011-09-09T06:37:26.986-07:002011-09-09T06:37:26.986-07:00I, annoyingly, open most conversations like this. ...I, annoyingly, open most conversations like this. I only need a sentence or two and the conversation takes a life of its own. Even with strangers / new friends. <br /><br />Some times it veers toward the car crash aspect of hoarding, but I'm not even the one who has to lead us away from that. SOMEone knows someone who has been affected by hoarding. Then we're off to happier topics. <br /><br />Often, when I see one of those new friends again, it's not until then they tell me about their own hoarder; sometimes it takes a while to process the information and realize.<br /><br />No one has ever made fun or judgement during these talks (at a diner, at a bar). Maybe they know if they did, I would talk them out back...<br /><br />Regardless, talk is beginning to happen. I'm really sorry for your pain. Thank you for speaking up.Sidneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03927726425934945206noreply@blogger.com